Horizontal parenting


This blog is Day 29 of my 30 days of motherhood blogging challenge. Every day, for 30 days, I’m sharing diary-style snippets of my life as a working mum to one cheeky toddler. Consider this part creative experiment, part self-therapy. Feel free to play along at home! You can read days one to 28 here.

Some days I wake up full of energy and feel like I’m nailing this motherhood thing. I play all the games, make all the food, and read all the books.

Other days, I do a lot of horizontal parenting. You get what I mean, right? Stretched out on the couch while your kid clambers over you. Observing your kid play while you save your energy for the high chair and bedtime battles yet to come.

The mean voice in my head is like “get up, stop being so lazy, you’re setting a bad example for your child.” (Ouch! Harsh, right?)

The nice voice in my head is like “Zoey is still loving this one-on-one time, even if you’re horizontal! Relax.”

Most of the time, my nice voice wins, but gosh we can be hard on ourselves sometimes can’t we?

For some reason, I have equated ‘good parenting’ with ‘energetic parenting’. As if the amount of activities I plan or cookies I bake are the ultimate measure of success.

If you’ve been following this 30 day challenge since the beginning, you’ll have noticed this is a recurring theme – my drive to be productive and make the most out of every hour. Even on days like today when I worked, too.

I guess we all have this version of our ‘ideal selves’ that we aspire to live up to every day, and on the days we fall short (of which there are many), it’s about having the grace to accept that sometimes you just need to rest (in whatever way you can with a small child).

Amen to that, am I right?

Until tomorrow,

P.S. I feel like I’m really limping to the end of this 30 day challenge. My posts have got so much shorter! Blame fatigue, wedding planning, and tonight… Game of Thrones ;-)